"Good manners - Host and guest" Top 5 Page for this destination Japan Local Custom Tip by Pixiekatten

Japan Local Customs: 477 reviews and 616 photos

At all times, it is best to be humble, respectful, and modest whether you are the host or guest. It is the host's duty to make sure the guests are well-taken care of, sometimes to the point of smothering. Guests should be welcomed with polite and general statements. This is the time to thank each other for taking the time to visit or for a previous meeting.

The host(s) should be quite perceptive and anticipate a guest's need. It is embarrassing for the guest to have to ask for something. Guests should generally not ask for anything as it is considered rude to directly state your wishes. Some kind of refreshment is usually served. The guest does not ask for an alternative. It would be better to take a polite sip or bite and politely decline an offer of something else if the host asks. The host also invites the guest to actually drink or eat, even though something may have been already served. The guest is careful not to drink or eat until the host has said "Please" or Dozo. The host(s) waits until the guests have begun before they eat or drink.

When the guests leave, the host sees them off; often literally standing out on the street until the guests are out of sight. Just before disappearing from view, the guest turns to give one last wave or bow and it is important for the host to acknowledge this last gesture.

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  • Written Sep 21, 2006
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