"NO AMERICAN STYLE "DATING" HERE" Paris Local Custom Tip by thinking

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by thinking

"Dating" in France DOES NOT EXIST in the STYLE OR MANNER of the USA.

People in France meet each other in groups. Then they discuss their concerns and see how each another interacts with others and themselves. This allows one to observe other people's behavior and character without any comment, extra expense, or committments. Each person always pays their own way when going with the group to dinner, a movie, or a concert, etc.

In France, if two people decide to go out alone together, they have already decided to investigate the idea of living together
or a domestic partnership, or a permanent relationship, even one leading to marriage. NEVER would anyone in France consider discussing such an important and serious matter with more than one person at a time, even on a casual basis.
It just isn't done.

In the USA, you can have as many concurrent "dates" and "relationships" as you want. There is no certainty in any area of American life, and this fact is well expressed in the American saying "There is no certainty except death and taxes."

Consequently, Americans use their time to create opportunities to "trade up" in every area of their life. Relationships are generally viewed as "temporary" when one is tormented by such uncertainty. The American view is always with an eye toward "improving" their uncertain situation, hence their quest for immediate action and an immediate solution to uncertainty.

US workers must constantly search for the next job opportunity, since the law allows them to be fired immediately without cause. Europeans consider Americans to be flexible, because they misunderstand the American's situation. Yes, American workers are flexible. They know they must find a job on their own or starve to death.

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  • Updated Aug 19, 2006
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