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by balisunshine

Recently I took into account,
the emotional distress that
my 'new comer' friend to Bali was in,
after an incident that astounded her.

In her preliminary, 'deeply in love stage with Bali',
she had met a Balinese intellectual who
had represented Bali in ambassadorial circles,
who had once met her diplomatic father
many years ago in an official meeting between nations.

Let's call him Pak Wayan, so to say.

Pak Wayan embraced my friend,
calling her family,
because of this once upon a time encounter
he had had with her father.

My friend was truly touched
by this adoptive approach that
Pak Wayan appeared to have towards her.

Soon after, he invited her to a special ceremony
of which, she felt extremely honored to attend.

What my friend had not yet learned
during thisr infantile stage of
being 'in love with Bali',
was that, when giving flexibility and friendship,
you may find after a while that,
it is taken for granted

It is a bit like asking a mile,
when given an inch.

After the invitation was made,
Pak Wayan required of her
to make a donation of 1,000,000 Rp.

Concerned about her tight budget,
she found herself flabbergasted
of the demand made upon her.

My friend had still not understood that,
once the locals have been treated nicely
it is expected, even obliged to
give things that should be favors,
and acts of kindness in a westerner's
part of the world.

It can be a bit appalling at first.

But when you think about it
and take a good look as far elevated
as the government here,
everyone is entitled to everything that they can get.

After all,
no one ever seems to be punished for it,
and certainly not state officials.

So, if everyone keeps on taking,
eventually it becomes their right
to demand straight out,
including bribes.

It be wise if you keep this in mind
when dealing with new local friends
or even apply it to staff,
if you should hire any.

If not, you may find yourself,
deceived by what is required of you
and leaving you with the feeling that
you have an ATM sign on my forehead.

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  • Written Apr 11, 2006
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