batgirl1001's VirtualTourist Home Page

I haven't updated my homepage for ages and with good reason since I had a baby and found motherhood to be a challenging yet rewarding experience in my life. Most women juggle both their jobs and motherhood and find out that they missed out a lot on both fronts.

I chose the motherhood path for now to fully immersed myself in the experience. After all having worked for 10 years, I have fully experienced the joys or dilemmas of a working life. And now why not devote myself to motherhood and fully experienced it to the max. The early years of the child can be the most delightful, rewarding and utterly memorable time of your life. It is the first of many things to come:- the first time he/she smiles at you, calls out your name, the first time he/she walks and other more surprising things that you will always remember for the rest of your life, even if he/she doesn't.

So I thought if I devote myself to my family for a few years, I would have lost out on job openings and opportunities but I would have gained something else altogether, something more altruistic and precious to me. I would be there to witness her first steps, I would be the first person she hugs everyday, I would be the one she turns to when she is unsure or afraid of the unknown, I would be the one who tucks her to sleep at night, the one who sings to her the songs and reads to her the stories. I would know all this first-hand and not some maid, grandparent or nursery schoolteacher. I would be the one. They say kids grow up so fast these days and for those few short, fragile years I would experience what it is like to be the one.

Thinking about her made me think of my life and my family and future. Where do we see ourselves 10 years from now? I am in my 30s and increasingly I am being told that I need to look to my future because they can the average lifespan of a Singaporean will be 80 and above. So instead of enjoying my 30s or spending free-willingly I need to save up a tidy nest egg for my old age and that means making sacrifices. Where do I see myself when I am 50, 60, 70 and so on? Will I be able to afford a good life in my old age, will be